Good Enough

Well this is my first ever blog. I never thought in a million years I would be writing a blog. What would I say? Who would be interested? What am I supposed to do? I have decided that when I write a blog the one guiding principal will be that it will not be about ‘supposed to’s’. I will write whatever is around for me at the time. I think it will always be about growth, in some way. I think it may always be about observations that we often attempt to do the best we can with what we have, not always but we are human beings.

I absolutely love my life as a coach and have realised over the years that in fact I think I was a Life Coach even a child. I recall that I was always trying to fix things, well you will know that a Life Coach actually does not attempt to fix things, we are about supporting you accessing your own inner resources and wisdom. Anyway as a child I do remember with my family, suggesting things and asking what would they like. I think I guess I was a bit of a pain as a kid. I had this feeling that there was always a way through. This does not mean to say that I did not grow up without fears, negative coping mechanisms, low self confidence, self esteem and negative beliefs, just like most of us. However, what I know having experienced various modalities of therapy, workshops, creative therapies, training in various aspects related to work – Occupational Therapy, supervision and since 2005 3 events of life coach training and more creative therapies which I love, and oh the most effective learning of all being a human being, is that there is always potential.

Often we have so many signs and symbols right before our very eyes of what is not working for us but more importantly what is working for us but often we see more of what is not working. As humans I believe that we kind of know if we are not really living our inner, core beliefs, values as we just don’t feel fulfilled, happy and as if there is something missing. Our bodies often speak loudly to us and we just don’t hear. It may be our beliefs about our bodies, ill health, stresses, negative coping skills, something will tell us that we are living connected with our values and what really matters to us. How many of us have done things because we want to be liked, belong? The only way we feel we can gain value is from someone’s acknowledgement and how many times has this lead to further decline in our self esteem and confidence as the only person that can truly value ourselves is ourselves.

I have been extremely privileged over the years to witness some incredible changes in people who really learn about themselves and increase their self awareness about who they are and start to access their potential. It can be done so subtly and gently. This does not mean to say that it is comfortable. Often we hold on to old stuff because, although uncomfortable, it is comfortable as we know it but it certainly does not mean it is right for us.

My aim for the rest of my life is to support people to learn to trust themselves, to feel good enough no matter where they are or what they are doing. They do not have to be in a high paying job, work their fingers to the bone, be a size smaller, be the right colored skin or say the right kind of things. Goals are wonderful but if they are because we want to be liked and it is not really who we are, then we will never be good enough. Today I am good enough to write this blog. It is not perfect, it will not gain favour, I am not attempting to please anyone. I truly believe in my heart and soul that once we can really get that we are good enough we can live the life we truly are meant to live and in this magic happens, we achieve far more than we could have ever imagined. I promise you this, if you start looking after yourself more and take responsibility of who you are, life will never be the same, it will be so much better. Um, I could go on, surprising once you start writing. Well this is my first blog, I am not sure how to end and I guess I just offer two questions. Is there anything you are doing in your life because you think you should? Is there anything you are doing in your life because you want to? Oh, my other aim in life is to continue living a life of balance, that is fun, has creativity to connect to our inner child/intuition and share with family and friends. We are so meant to have a good time and need to laugh more.